Some of you may be familiar with the Serenity Prayer:
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Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can, and
Wisdom to know the difference.
(For more history and the more complete versions: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer)
Here I present a variation:
I oftentimes need to remind myself that I am not in control. In Recovery CBT training I learned that I cannot control feelings and sensations but I can control thoughts and impulses.
What that means is that I may feel a certain way and want to react in anger or throw a temper tantrum, or whatever. That is an impulse and I can control that if I wish to.
I can also control what I think of a situation.